Overcoming Church gossip
To overcome Church gossiping we have to overcome the cause and effect of gossiping and we have to stop the gossiping itself in the church because it destroys fellowship, unity, and trust among the members of a church.
The cause of gossiping
If we are walking according to the flesh, we will set our minds on the things of the flesh, like gossiping. Gossiping is a delight to the flesh.
In Proverbs 18:8 it is written: The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles, and they go down into the inmost body.
Another cause of gossiping is low self-esteem. When you have a low self-esteem you will have the tendency to degrade others to elevate yourself. You want to be important to fit in so that you can feel better about yourself.
Hate can also be another cause of gossiping. When you hate somebody you may have the tendency to slander about that person. You want to bring damage to his reputation so that others won’t find him so appealing.
Consequences of gossiping
We have already seen that gossip is a destroyer of fellowship. It divides, it slanders, it produces strife, it separates friends, it produces distrust, it destroys the integrity of the gossiper, and it makes you a sinning person.
In Proverbs 16:28 it is written: A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best friends.
How to stop your own gossiping
To stop your own gossiping you have to arm yourself with the thought to live for the will of God and not for the lust of men.
In 1 Peter 4:1-2 it is written: Therefore since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, that he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh for the lusts of men, but for the will of God.
And in Proverbs 11:13 it is written: A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.
And if a brother or sister has sinned against you, you can better correct him or her, according to Matthew 18:15-17, instead to gossip about him or her.
Moreover, if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like as a heathen and a tax collector.
6 Ways to stop the gossiping of others
- Change the subject
- Walk away
- Say something positive about the person who’s the target of gossip, according to Ephesians 4:29 where it is written: Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.
- Confront gossip politely yet firmly. Tell the gossipers that gossip is a sin and that you don’t want to sin.
- Point out missing information so that the gossipers will see that a gossip is not trustworthy.
- Turn a gossip into a prayer request.
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